For Those Who Help Marriages!

1. Develop Emotional Intelligence, 2) Create Shared Experiences, 3) Practice Appreciation and Gratitude, 4) Set Goals and Dreams Together, 5)
   Establish Rituals of Connection:
   

Family-Fanatics.com is for restoring fun and happiness to families. Save-Your-Marriages.org is to help couples whose marriage is struggling through a serious problem. NoDivorces.com is a little of everything related to preventing divorces.

The Conflict Cure is an online course by a friend for helping restore happiness and health to a conflicted relationship. 1,000 Questions is an e-book for people not yet married. Eileen and I found it was fun and helped keep us from being blindsided by common issues once we were married. We have been married 16 years now. 50 Secrets of Blissful Relationships is another excellent e-book by the same author as the 1,000 Questions e-book. Oh, and the Love Unlocked link is actually a mini-course similar to The Conflict Cure, and it’s free! If I were you, I would just click on that link and view it right away. Then if you find it helpful and want to go on to take The Conflict Cure afterward, it would be a good way to get the benefit of the short course quickly for free without any risk.

This website and the “Other Websites” are owned by my wife and me, and we are Christians. But the focus here is on practical helps in saving marriages. When I started NoDivorces.com in 2001, I was hurt and angry having gone through an unwanted divorce myself. I felt if the devil was going to get my marriage, I wanted it to cost him thousands of marriages being saved. In short, my ex had a wild, bipolar side and she became involved with another man, and I could not save the marriage after praying and reading and studying everything I could find. Actually, most of it I had already read before meeting my first wife.

In all, I joined and created several groups of people in my situation, and many had different religious views, and many people became highly conflicted. Yet, that is not reason to compromise one’s integrity just to make others happy. Some wanted to convert me to their religion. Some questioned whether a divorced person could remarry or whether the second marriage could ever be legitimate. Most felt that the faithful victim of an adulterous spouse could divorce and remarry while others pounded the gavel of judgment on them. Some seem to confuse forgiveness with condoning or supporting or defending sin.

Overall, the issues and scriptures involved are complicated, but that does not mean they should not be studied and understood well. In fact, I do not believe it would be possible to be faithful to God and one’s own principles while only having a superficial or perhaps even insincere or self-serving compromise of values as the wedding promises are indeed vows said before God and all heaven as well as to one’s family. So, when I think of grounds for divorce, I do not see it as an opportunity to break free, but rather a grievous acknowledgement that one has been severely violated to the point where a faithful spouse truly cannot wisely or honorably maintain the marriage–not that it has become difficult, but rather that it has become either impossible or dangerously irresponsible to do so.