Marriage Preparation is Vital to Success
Several years ago, an organization called Marriage Savers came into some communities, met with pastors, and came up with an agreement that they would not marry people until they had gone through some marriage preparation first. And divorce rates dropped sharply.
One author named Michael Webb claimed said,
“An estimated 83% of divorces would not take place if couples asked each other the right questions”
Someone said, “92.7 percent of all statistics are made up.” So now I violate a principle of good writing–Do not invalidate oneself.
Whatever statistics say, personal experience and testimonies of many people suggest that premarital preparation contributes greatly to marital happiness and success.
How We Had Fun Preparing
Eileen and I purchased an e-book online called 1,000 Questions for Couples and went through many of the questions before we went to our church’s premarital counseling with our pastor.
I was a little afraid at first. Would these questions start a fight between us? Would they force us to open up about issues that might cause us to break up and cancel our wedding? Would we find out something about each other that we cannot accept?
Since I was the one who suggested going through these questions, I could not back down. Still, I felt afraid the author wrote this e-book to stop a bad marriage before it happens, and I was afraid to discover something I did not want to find out–that our relationship was not as healthy or strong as we thought it was.
Instead of drawing Eileen and me into conflict, we had fun. We grew together, and we grew closer. We discussed potential issues in any marriage and avoided facing sudden and serious situations unprepared. We discussed many situations before experiencing them, so when difficulties came, they were easier for us to handle. In the end, we were very happy we went through these questions. It seemed to help us open up to each other. And now, eight years later, we still benefit.
The Good and Bad and Another E-Book
Having said that, the author, Michael Webb, who I understood was a strong Christian, produces some materials a little too racy for my taste. While I do believe sex is good and healthy within marriage, I do not believe that making a marriage better or more successful involves so much focus on sexual exploration and some of the pressures that can come about if too much focus is on sex.
Even so, I found this e-book and the two e-books on 50 Secrets to Blissful Relationships to be excellent and helpful for our marriage.
You may want to consider getting these for yourself or for a friend who is preparing for marriage or who is in a marriage that could use a little more healthy, clean fun.